Relationships, Thrifty Traveler

Time for a change

It’s time for a change!

Hi, I am super excited to announce the new changes in my business as well as a little sad. I will be closing down Shining Relationships with Kaylee Shadows. First off, I have loved doing Shining Relationships and enjoyed the people I have met and the people I have helped. I think one of my favorite memories is when I spoke at a suicide prevention rally at a high school in Spokane Washington. This is an area that touches my heart and I want to be able to help in. I have enjoyed the many conversations with couples who have needed advice and the people who have come to me to learn more about loving themselves. This is the part that makes me sad. However, I have not made this decision lightly, but I know in my heart it is time. I have been stretched so thin between relationships and traveling that I am not giving myself or anyone the attention that is needed. As much as I love relationships and the work I have done there, I know that I love traveling more. I also have seen that this is an area that I can help people a ton. I can help people travel and take vacations on any budget. I can help those families take their kids on trips they never thought they would be able to. What about the couple who wants to take a honeymoon but thinks they can’t afford it? Yes, they can, and I can help. This is my calling, and this is where I am needed. I am shifting away from Shining Relationships and focusing on Thrifty Traveling. I hope you continue to stay with me through this, but I can understand if this area is not for you. If so, you can either unsubscribe or unfollow my work and there will be no hard feelings. However, if you are interested in great tips and deals on traveling then stay with me. You will notice the change of everything very soon. For those of you who are still wanting relationship stuff I will still be posting stuff on my website www.kayleeshadows.comunder relationships and I will still have my Let Your Light Shine Facebook group that you can join if you haven’t already. My relationship advice podcast with my husband will also continue so you can listen to that or watch it on YouTube. Thanks for all your support and I hope to see you on this adventure as well.

Lots of Love 


How soon should you have sex in a relationship?

This is one question I get asked all the time. In fact, this question gets asked so much that I am directing it to my podcast in the next couple of weeks.

This is a really good question, but first, off I have to state this…if your new partner says they are going to leave you if you don’t have sex with them, then they suck and you should let them leave. Sex is a big deal and you should not feel pressured to have sex with someone.

I know today that people think sex is casual and not a big deal but these people are wrong. I know there are some people who can have casual sex, I am personally not one of them, but that does not mean it should be casual or that you should feel pressured.

Now to answer the question, “How soon should you have sex in a relationship?” I don’t believe there is a certain amount of time. There is no right answer, there is only what you think is best.

Now I’m not going to tell you what to do or what not to do. I will, however, give you some advice on this topic.

I am not an old fashioned girl and I don’t believe that you should wait to get married before you have sex. I know a lot of people still think that or even have religious views on this. I am not telling you what to do one way or another on this. My only opinion here is that you should wait until you are ready. Only you will know when you are ready.

Think of how many times you’ve heard someone in a relationship says, “UHHH” I should have never slept with that jerk or I should’ve waited till I knew him better. You don’t want this to be another one of those stories. Wait until you know them better.

However, this does not mean you are doomed if you do have sex early. Every relationship is different and a lot of times age and experience come into play here. I know for me when I met my first husband at 18 I was not ready to jump into bed with him right away. Now when I was in my 30’s I met my hunky second husband and couldn’t wait to get him alone. He is super sexy.


Sex is something that is supposed to be fun and enjoyable. You should never feel pressured to do something you don’t want, and you should never feel like sex is an obligation. Just have fun and enjoy your new relationship and take as much time is you need.

Lots of Love


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A Romantic Easter? Say What!

Hello All

As I promised here is the post today on having a romantic Easter.

First, let me tell you that this is in no way a slam against Christianity or the true meaning of Easter. This is also not a way to take away the fun that the kiddos have on Easter. This post is just for those of you who love a little romance no matter which day it is…..

Now with that being said, let’s get on to a romantic easter for you and your sweetie…

Just like any holiday you want to make it special and fun, so here are a few tips to give you a simply romantic and fun Easter.

First off plan this ahead of time. Which is why this post is as early as it is. Easter is right around the corner so make plans now. Start with flowers for her. She deserves a pretty arrangement today.

If your sweetie is going to be spending all day in the kitchen cooking for your whole family then she will not want to cook later or clean up. Make reservations at a nice restaurant for the two of you that night. Find a babysitter that will get the kid’s bathed and in bed. Go as far as to lay the kids school clothes out the night before so your sweetie won’t have to worry about it. Trust me it’s the little gestures that make a huge difference and bring happiness.

You don’t need to be out all night just a couple hours to get some alone time. Order some wine and enjoy it together. 

If you can’t afford to go out then plan for a yummy dessert with your sweetie. Be festive and make it an easter drink like this one. 


  • 1-1/2 ounces fluffed marshmallow vodka
  • 1/2 ounce vanilla syrup, plus extra for rim
  • 1 ounce cream
  • Sugar
  • 1 Peeps bunny


  1. Onto 1 plate, pour a small amount of vanilla syrup, and on another plate, sprinkle sugar. Dip the rim of a glass into the syrup and then into the sugar to coat.
  2. Pour the vodka, syrup and cream into a cocktail shaker with ice.
  3. Shake.
  4. Strain into the glass. Garnish the rim with the Peeps bunny.

Spice up the day by hiding some easter eggs for your sweetie too. Use plastic eggs and put some fun stuff inside.  Maybe a necklace or a pair of earrings. Little notes that tell how much you love them, or my favorite a coupon for a free massage anytime they wants from their favorite masseuse…..YOU!!!!

Whatever you do today is up to you, but enjoy each other and as always love each other. 

I hope you all have a wonderful Easter and have some fun too!!!

Lots of love

Kaylee Shadows