How soon should you have sex in a relationship?

This is one question I get asked all the time. In fact, this question gets asked so much that I am directing it to my podcast in the next couple of weeks.

This is a really good question, but first, off I have to state this…if your new partner says they are going to leave you if you don’t have sex with them, then they suck and you should let them leave. Sex is a big deal and you should not feel pressured to have sex with someone.

I know today that people think sex is casual and not a big deal but these people are wrong. I know there are some people who can have casual sex, I am personally not one of them, but that does not mean it should be casual or that you should feel pressured.

Now to answer the question, “How soon should you have sex in a relationship?” I don’t believe there is a certain amount of time. There is no right answer, there is only what you think is best.

Now I’m not going to tell you what to do or what not to do. I will, however, give you some advice on this topic.

I am not an old fashioned girl and I don’t believe that you should wait to get married before you have sex. I know a lot of people still think that or even have religious views on this. I am not telling you what to do one way or another on this. My only opinion here is that you should wait until you are ready. Only you will know when you are ready.

Think of how many times you’ve heard someone in a relationship says, “UHHH” I should have never slept with that jerk or I should’ve waited till I knew him better. You don’t want this to be another one of those stories. Wait until you know them better.

However, this does not mean you are doomed if you do have sex early. Every relationship is different and a lot of times age and experience come into play here. I know for me when I met my first husband at 18 I was not ready to jump into bed with him right away. Now when I was in my 30’s I met my hunky second husband and couldn’t wait to get him alone. He is super sexy.


Sex is something that is supposed to be fun and enjoyable. You should never feel pressured to do something you don’t want, and you should never feel like sex is an obligation. Just have fun and enjoy your new relationship and take as much time is you need.

Lots of Love


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A must have while traveling

One question I am asked a lot is “What is the most important thing you need while traveling?” This is kind of funny to me because I feel like a lot of things are a must need while traveling like identification and money. However, one thing I find extremely important is a messenger bag or satchel bag depending on what you call them. I have one and now I am getting one for my husband photography business.

I started using one of these after my twins were born because I need the freedom of both hands. Any of you who have more than one child knows exactly what I mean. This continued to be something I did even now that the boys are old enough to walk without holding my hand. When I am on vacation I love that it hangs by my side and I can easily put stuff inside it or take it out. It also makes a nice holder for my coat when I get to warm. I just drape it over the bag and it fits perfectly.

My husband has started running into the problem of needing all his camera gear with him but his regular camera backpack is a pain to carry around plus the time it takes to open it and get what he needs is crazy. He has missed so many shots just because of that.

I have found some amazing deals on these bags so don’t think you need to spend a ton of money. You can get these in any style or color. Here are a few of my top selection.

Whatever bag you choose make sure it has the long strap so you can have it go across your body for more security. You don’t want it slipping off your arm all the time.

Happy Traveling


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You must have this if you travel internationally.

Traveling is my specialty and if you are someone who loves to travel especially outside of the United States then I high recommend buying an international travel power adapter. This will help you a bunch for charging your phone, laptop and anything else. I even found one on Amazon for a great price.

Click here or on the picture to get a great item for all your travels.

Have a fabulous time….